“Talk to yourself like you would someone you love.” – Brené Brown
It can be easy to give to others, to offer a kind word or thoughtful encouragement. A lot of us wouldn’t think twice to help a friend out in need or show them gratitude. The challenge however, can be giving that warm embrace and dose of love to our selves. Not only that but sometimes we think almost nothing of putting ourselves down. Self-doubt, judgments and put-downs can slip into seemingly normal dialogue. I’ve heard girlfriends go on about how they felt fat or un-pretty, measuring self worth in all the wrong ways, but hesitant to acknowledge the positives about themselves. Make no mistake I’ve been guilty of it all too, making note of all the things I’d like to change, never giving myself credibility for any of my accomplishments.
Why is it so normal to be so hard on ourselves? I don’t know about you but I’m tired of holding on so tightly to negative thoughts that I’m unable to move forward into something better. I want to make peace with myself, because even though I’m lucky enough to have an amazing support system of friends and family, I want to be there for myself. To remind myself that I’m enough, to accept the things I deem flaws, to stop feeling guilty for silly things.
As I become aware of the way I interact with the world around me I’m realizing how important it is to have a strong relationship with myself before I can be the ‘best version’ of me. The more we understand and accept ourselves the less of a fight life becomes. In this crazy world of ours keeping grounded and staying true to ourselves, as I’m learning, is so, so important. Life is a constant series of ups and downs, lessons, challenges, love and pain. Without a solid foundation of self-acceptance it’s like we’re adding another barrier to it all.
We need to be our own cheerleaders. To be able to tell ourselves we’re beautiful and believe it, encourage ourselves to persevere and to do whatever it is that makes us feel good for the sake of our own joy. Self-love is not limited to exterior or interior, it’s loving yourself as a whole. The good, the bad, the ugly, the things you can’t change—that which makes up the fiber of your very being.
I’m ready to move forward and create a new relationship with myself. One that reflects the person who I am now and the person I’m evolving to be, not a reflection of the past.
Forget perfection. Forget waiting to feel better about yourself when this or that happens. Let’s love ourselves now and let’s do so relentlessly. That person in the mirror is who you have to look at everyday, you’re stuck together whether you like it or not. Things go much more smoothly when the two of you get along.