Delayed Gratification And Success

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I’ll admit it, I’m guilty of pursuing instant gratification in most areas of life. Call me a woman of her generation or maybe I’m just human. Doing so has manifested into ill-fit relationships, choosing pizza over a home cooked, healthy meal (again) and taking the safe job instead of pursuing my own endeavors. Up until recently,…
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On Giving Myself Permission


Photo by garlandcannon. Life really opens up once you give yourself permission to live it. It’s one of those things where you didn’t know what you were missing out on until you actually experience it. I don’t have a profound story detailing the moment I realized this. Of how I was exploring under the stars, looking…
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Fear Almost Killed My Writing Practice..Again

Fear and Writing

Photo by Bianca Moraes. I could say that life’s gotten in the way of my writing practice, but really it hasn’t. I’ve gotten in the way. Somewhere over the course of the past two years I started retreating into a shell of fear and doubt again. Too scared of what people would think of my writing (because…
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Dusting Off The Cobwebs

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  It’s been quiet around here. All my writing has been hoarded in a collection of tattered notebooks and journals as I feared anything I wrote wasn’t worth sharing with the world. Who knows, maybe it isn’t, but I’ve decided that I don’t really care. I miss the feeling I had weaving words together for…
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Setting Boundaries In Relationships

Setting Boundaries

  “I want the whole cake. That’s right, I want the whole damn thing. I’m tired of the crumbs and can no longer only allow myself to take small bites.  So why is it that I keep gladly accepting the stale slices of love and affection when I know I deserve more? Obviously this really…
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Accepting Self-Love

  “Talk to yourself like you would someone you love.” – Brené Brown It can be easy to give to others, to offer a kind word or thoughtful encouragement. A lot of us wouldn’t think twice to help a friend out in need or show them gratitude. The challenge however, can be giving that warm…
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On Finding A Place To Call Home


  I remember standing in my elementary school library when I was younger, maybe 6 or 7, looking through all the books that had anything to do with far away lands and unfamiliar cultures. Astonished that there was so much more to the world than my small hometown. Luckily my family was interested in seeing more of…
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A Love Note To Pai, Thailand

Pai Thailand Countryside

This post was originally written for Epicure & Culture and is part of their #ProjectLoveNote  series.  Dear Pai, You are truly a curative paradise. Like many others, I battle with the constant ‘need’ to be doing, seeing and accomplishing. I push and push trying to make it to that next big thing and when it doesn’t…
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3 Ways To Gain Clarity When Setting Intentions

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Since I’ve returned to Milwaukee in November I’ve had a pretty strong gut feeling as to what my next moves were and have already started putting in the work. However, I thought that with the New Year having just arrived it would be the perfect time to revisit my goals. Even though it’s only been…
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2014: Learning To Embrace My Shadow Self

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  Being the Cancerian that I am, I’m all about reflection and 2014 was quite the year in hindsight. It was a year that stretched my soul; it was uncomfortable, I grew a tremendous amount and had some life changing international adventures. In the beginning of the year I remember talking to a friend about…
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